Thursday, January 12, 2012

Let's talk about your mess.....

They say that a cluttered house is a sign of a cluttered mind and I definitely believe that to be true. Pretty much everyone I have ever met who lives in a disorganized house is also completely disorganized in life.  Ever watch Hoarders on A&E? Can you think of a single example of one of those people that seemed to have their life in order? Nope, they are pretty much all crazy cat ladies and hot messes of individuals.  Ok, that sampling is definitely extreme but you get the idea. 

I watch the show every week and during the last episode, something struck me. In just about every single instance, the hoarder spends a good deal of time blaming the mess on someone else. It's not *their* fault that they are sitting in mounds of trash. It's their darn kids that decided to stop taking out the garbage. It's the fact that they inherited everything from their Mother's house. It's because they are disabled. Excuses...excuses....excuses....

So, let's translate the unfathomable messes that are shown on tv to a smaller scale, shall we? I have a friend; We will call her Bea. Bea lives in constant chaos. Her house is a mess. Her kids misbehave. She has a husband that might as well be a bump on a log for all the work he does around the house and in their lives. As the weeks, months, years pass by, junk continually accumulates throughout her home as well as in her mind. Living in a state of disarray makes it hard to get a grip on the things she needs to do to turn this around. 

Bea says she wants to live a better life but isn't willing to make a change for it to happen.In my humble opinion, it is time for some serious action. But, like most things in life, it takes baby steps to get things started. 

Enter Flylady. 

“I know that you have become overwhelmed by your home and the chaos that you have been living in. We are here to help you and it doesn't cost you a dime. Keep in mind that your home did not get this way overnight and it is not going to get clean in a day. We are going to teach you how to take Baby Steps and establish little routines for getting rid of your clutter and maintaining your home. This system will work for anyone; it doesn't matter if you work outside of your home, stay home with children, retired or work at home. You can do this, you have just needed someone to pat you on the back and give you a great big hug to get you started. “ ~FlyLady

I did this years ago and still practice many of her techniques today. You need 31 days of baby steps to get your house into order. My challenge to all of you that need some help decluttering your house (which will get you on your way to decluttering your mind) is to start this TODAY. Don't delay. And report back to me and let me know how it's going. As silly as it sounds, when you are no longer living in confusion, the harmony that follows will enable you to continue a journey toward complete wellness. It's a great place to be.

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
~Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.


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